tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post6375137925512158896..comments2024-03-29T14:18:54.296+00:00Comments on EAGLETON NOTES: Re-UnitedGraham Edwardshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-3530558632881622502021-06-09T15:51:53.333+01:002021-06-09T15:51:53.333+01:00Apologies, Beatrice, for my tardy response. It'...Apologies, Beatrice, for my tardy response. It's really good to find other people who keep in touch and who have also made friends in Blogland.Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-77209427545712141812021-06-09T15:49:43.617+01:002021-06-09T15:49:43.617+01:00Marcheline, I could not agree more about your wond...Marcheline, I could not agree more about your wonderful ability to keep in touch in so many ways. It's taken me a rainy day and an afternoon in the house to get back to catch up in Blogland.Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-88982054010414026172021-06-09T15:47:41.967+01:002021-06-09T15:47:41.967+01:00Thank you, Jules, (much belatedly) your comment is...Thank you, Jules, (much belatedly) your comment is, as always, very apt.Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-66628402826468007652021-05-28T03:11:23.115+01:002021-05-28T03:11:23.115+01:00Yes, I do keep in contact with a great many people...Yes, I do keep in contact with a great many people including former workmates and neighbors in the two other states where we resided. My contact is through phone calls, correspondence and emails. It has been a long time since I've been able to see some of these people and hopefully a face-to-face meeting with some will occur in the next few months. While much of this correspondence is with people I have known, in the past few years I've been writing to several people met through online blogging but never in person. Our only contact is through our correspondences. I am not on any other social media (other than a blog)Beatrice P. Boydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08281239556392874979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-73674384668133197092021-05-26T11:55:21.691+01:002021-05-26T11:55:21.691+01:00I am a long-time lover of long-distance communicat...I am a long-time lover of long-distance communication... letter writing ranks among my top favorite hobbies (to include emails)... so I am pretty much up for connecting (or re-connecting) with anyone from my life, so long as I like them and they're good folks. I'm a very private person, in that I don't want random strangers to be able to access my personal information, so it would take a bit of effort for someone who used to know me to find me now. I am not a member of any of the school websites, nor do I use my real name on any social media platforms. If someone finds me, they really put in some effort. Most of my re-connects have been a result of my looking for them. Just recently I reconnected with a school friend from the midwest who moved away when I was not yet in high school. So happy to hear from her again! It's amazing to see how people's lives have changed / grown since one knew them back when.Marchelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07697295230446820295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-59265349468023237152021-05-26T11:20:20.151+01:002021-05-26T11:20:20.151+01:00It is often the way with real friends, that any di...It is often the way with real friends, that any distance and time apart seem insignificant when you get to talking again. I like to keep in touch. Once a friend always a friend. XJuleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03837629817375132149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-57755602388197420232021-05-25T22:10:49.414+01:002021-05-25T22:10:49.414+01:00Yes, you're right I like people and mostly hav...Yes, you're right I like people and mostly have good skills but I have this fear that I won't be able to connect with someone in a new context.<br />I'll go and meet a blogger I've never met before with less trepidation than seeing an old work friend away from work.<br />I had to think a lot to articulate that, funny the things we don't know about ourselves 😊kyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17733888108530605722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-10900023879422499382021-05-25T20:20:21.696+01:002021-05-25T20:20:21.696+01:00Nothing at all in both our cases.Nothing at all in both our cases.Adrian Wardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09061432566298145837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-50097428047022813432021-05-25T19:59:20.082+01:002021-05-25T19:59:20.082+01:00If, Adrian, we had simply expired at "two yea...If, Adrian, we had simply expired at "two years and ten" we would have had precious few things to think about.😂Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-24548544680486329132021-05-25T19:46:45.649+01:002021-05-25T19:46:45.649+01:00Graham, that is why you are acceptableGraham, that is why you are acceptableAdrian Wardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09061432566298145837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-37125477914962635542021-05-25T19:42:56.099+01:002021-05-25T19:42:56.099+01:00I once went on friends reunited. It was a school t...I once went on friends reunited. It was a school thingy. I took one look at the horrors I'd missed and gave it up as a bad job, I was looking for a quick shag, the women were bad but the blokes far worse. It wasn't all a waste as I now see a lass from those days. She has matured and now likes petrol heads. When I think back to what I'd have sacrificed to give it one we both laugh. <br />All our peers are now dead, her best mate died diving off the Farne Islands. She was an anaesthetist and got her own breathing muddled up. Fortunately she worked in Teesside somewhere so no harm done. It's part and parcel of living more than two years and ten. Adrian Wardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09061432566298145837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-91876467585102710592021-05-25T19:35:48.975+01:002021-05-25T19:35:48.975+01:00YP, my instincts are quite the reverse.YP, my instincts are quite the reverse.Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-26895862264871051232021-05-25T19:35:19.216+01:002021-05-25T19:35:19.216+01:00Ursula, I'm still in touch with a friend I met...Ursula, I'm still in touch with a friend I met in Sunday School at the age of 4 (over 70 years ago). One of her daughters is my Goddaughter and she, her partner and their child are visiting me next week (from about 550 miles away). Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-52800541925367434892021-05-25T19:32:22.283+01:002021-05-25T19:32:22.283+01:00Kylie, I'm very interested in your statement t...Kylie, I'm very interested in your statement that you are "a bit socially anxious." You seem to me to be a "people person" and I can't imagine you not being able to get on with normal people as a matter of course.Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-41223268685585336052021-05-25T19:29:12.215+01:002021-05-25T19:29:12.215+01:00Kay, "Don't be a stranger!" is a ver...Kay, "Don't be a stranger!" is a very Island thing too. My next door neighbours moved into town and I call on them frequently. (Not during lockdown of course) She always starts of with "Hello Stranger" even if I saw her the previous week. The fact that she never comes out into the country any more is simply excused by saying "Ah, but you come into town so I don't need to."Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-48177852680822985002021-05-25T19:26:03.994+01:002021-05-25T19:26:03.994+01:00That's pretty much how things are with me too,...That's pretty much how things are with me too, Monica. There's a response to your last snail mail on it's way this morning. Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-16109515899568423832021-05-25T19:23:59.456+01:002021-05-25T19:23:59.456+01:00Maywyn, oddly it's relatives rather than frien...Maywyn, oddly it's relatives rather than friends whom I've not kept up with too.Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-87103652748329039612021-05-25T11:22:05.531+01:002021-05-25T11:22:05.531+01:00Mostly my instinct is to cut away from people of t...Mostly my instinct is to cut away from people of the past but there are a handful who continue to travel with me and we keep in touch.Yorkshire Puddinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06019673884543913089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-83577019088923314912021-05-25T09:33:38.018+01:002021-05-25T09:33:38.018+01:00I most certainly do, Graham, [keeping in touch nat...I most certainly do, Graham, [keeping in touch naturally with friends from my past].<br /> <br />Once a friend always a friend. Even if we are all scattered into the winds and all over the world. Someone pops into my mind, a memory, I'll pick up the phone, spontaneously, often after years and years. It's always great. We pick up where we left off, having a laugh. And, unlike some, I am not precious who phones whom first. As long as one of us makes the effort.<br /><br />Mind you, it can backfire when you call a number and find yourself talking to one of your female friend's successor. Don't ask. It's too long a story. Albeit an amusing one. And, no worries: I knew how to find that particular friend's parents and contact info to get in touch again. I don't give up easily.<br /><br />To put it another way: Anyone who touches our lives in any meaningful way, be it now, yesterday, fifty years ago, is part of the fabric of who we are. For heaven's sake, and laugh if you must - I do, I am still in contact with people I worked for (bosses) ages ago (unless, of course, they have died in the interim. Shame on them).<br /><br />UUrsulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722046288685936851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-79981698628584702362021-05-25T00:14:20.397+01:002021-05-25T00:14:20.397+01:00When people move on (or when I do) I usually find ...When people move on (or when I do) I usually find it very awkward to maintain any kind of relationship without the situation that brought us together. Their is one friend I met in Sydney and only knew for three years before she went to live in Nottingham. She's been gone 15 years and we are in touch every week but even that was rekindled from a bare minimun when she had a cancer diagnosis.<br />I'm not uninterested in people, just a bit socially anxiouskyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964475783207438103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-12073587186571388742021-05-24T23:50:47.793+01:002021-05-24T23:50:47.793+01:00When my Dad had a visitor he would always say, &qu...When my Dad had a visitor he would always say, "hurry back" when they left and "don't be a stranger!". On the phone, just before he said goodbye, he would say, "Call me again!". Your post reminded me of this. I just wish I could keep up with folks as well as he always did. xxKay G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07228498846814735537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-8592443831219512722021-05-24T17:54:17.795+01:002021-05-24T17:54:17.795+01:00Like you, I think I have been pretty good at stayi...Like you, I think I have been pretty good at staying in touch one way or another with people who have been important in my life, even if the level of contact varies a lot - from just Christmas cards, or perhaps hearing "about" one another through other mutual friends, to more personal contact. With people I don't talk to regularly, I'm usually better at keeping in touch by writing than by phone (but that also depends on their habits as well as my own.) In general, I think that if you were once good friends (and nothing special happened to break that friendship), it's usually not too difficult to pick up the thread again. DawnTreaderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04533307672147117843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-83435465088716661512021-05-24T14:27:29.405+01:002021-05-24T14:27:29.405+01:00There was an aunt I use to call whether she kept i...There was an aunt I use to call whether she kept in touch with me or not. Others, no reply, then I didn't keep in touch, and that's good with me.Salty Pumpkin Studiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10116105220109225010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-2810049550028010812021-05-24T12:54:10.824+01:002021-05-24T12:54:10.824+01:00Tasker, your point about video meetings is a very ...Tasker, your point about video meetings is a very valid one. I have regular video meetings with friends all over the world: some occasional and some regular, some individual and some group. Indeed I now do 'coffee and crossword' with a particularly close friend who lives near Glasgow so, unless I am staying with her or <i>vice versa</i>, I now find it a very natural way of keeping in touch.Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-18143929993169936742021-05-24T12:48:03.717+01:002021-05-24T12:48:03.717+01:00JayCee, so much depends on circumstances and desir...JayCee, so much depends on circumstances and desire. Some people have no desire or see no point in maintaining friendships once there is a distance separation. Some quite the reverse. Neither is right in my humble opinion. It's just what suits.Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.com