tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post80391295226258331..comments2024-03-22T23:27:47.349+00:00Comments on EAGLETON NOTES: The Lost Art of GratitudeGraham Edwardshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-19180664883290724522015-02-21T01:42:17.150+00:002015-02-21T01:42:17.150+00:00Regarding common courtesy: I saw a post on the ne...Regarding common courtesy: I saw a post on the net yestserday:<br />"The guy who shoved his way past me on the subway platform and told me to go F****k myself, just walked into my office for his personnel interview." Even if apocryphal, you gotta love it! DeeDeeCanadian Chickadeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12995693884248628958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-67777553306300412892015-02-20T09:39:28.629+00:002015-02-20T09:39:28.629+00:00GB, I know for sure that the younger kids look at ...GB, I know for sure that the younger kids look at their peers who say "Please" and "Thank You" as being too bougie, and are bullied and ostracised.<br />VirginiaChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17282569773671179047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-58718509808312180572015-02-20T09:35:28.545+00:002015-02-20T09:35:28.545+00:00Sorry Adrian but I would not have handed this youn...Sorry Adrian but I would not have handed this young girl any eggs....for crying out loud..."Get me some eggs....Now" doesn't register in my brain at all.VirginiaChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17282569773671179047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-18610203175069136522015-02-19T21:55:53.097+00:002015-02-19T21:55:53.097+00:00Hang on YP. I seem to recall that Yorkshire is the...Hang on YP. I seem to recall that Yorkshire is the county that holds a competition for the honour of holding the title of Grumpiest person in the community. Wasn't David Hockney once called the grumpiest man in Britain? And what about Arthur Smith. Mind you I bet they all - well Perhaps not Hockney - said thanks for the title.Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-64847932033630408592015-02-19T20:06:38.356+00:002015-02-19T20:06:38.356+00:00I thought the magic word was Abracadabra. I thought the magic word was Abracadabra. Yorkshire Puddinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06019673884543913089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-7989813618741331772015-02-19T20:05:04.915+00:002015-02-19T20:05:04.915+00:00The long paragraph left me thinking that you had t...The long paragraph left me thinking that you had turned into The Invisible Man. <br />Little acts of gratitude matter a lot to me too and I believe that I am quite scrupulous about dishing out thanks - when getting off a bus, after serving somebody in Oxfam, when my wife makes me a cup of tea, after asking for directions. Sometimes I think I am this weird Thank You Man. But of course in Yorkshire everybody is well-mannered. It's just part of our kind and sunny nature.Yorkshire Puddinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06019673884543913089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-70631939030803317032015-02-19T19:48:34.055+00:002015-02-19T19:48:34.055+00:00Great comments, all.
Great comments, all.<br />Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12453125929159161583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-61723509045207568262015-02-19T19:43:47.147+00:002015-02-19T19:43:47.147+00:00Good. And so he should.Good. And so he should.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12453125929159161583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-18106258559539070872015-02-19T11:11:07.605+00:002015-02-19T11:11:07.605+00:00I agree Jenny. I agree Jenny. Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-78795131030572119312015-02-19T11:09:30.157+00:002015-02-19T11:09:30.157+00:00Peace I simply used gratitude as an example of man...Peace I simply used gratitude as an example of manners which seem to have gone into decline. Having said that I think that many people now have so much they often have little gratitude and the lack of expression is simply down to a lack of manners. I suspect we would say 'thank you' even if we were not grateful so to that extent it is certainly a question of manners.Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-54252494744224292252015-02-18T23:34:10.329+00:002015-02-18T23:34:10.329+00:00I think there is a general feeling of entitlement ...I think there is a general feeling of entitlement now - more than there was. And the person who commented above (what a lovely screen name) is absolutely right about the manners. It takes a lot of nagging to get kids to show manners, although it eventually becomes ingrained. But I don't think it's just that people don't have time to teach their kids - it is something else. Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-44692663990892094402015-02-18T20:17:24.893+00:002015-02-18T20:17:24.893+00:00The laundry room in my building is one place where...The laundry room in my building is one place where I tend to sigh at general disrespect and lack of manners. Yesterday the machines were (to my relief) empty when I got down there to start; but later when I was down moving my second load from washer to drier, a woman (about half my age perhaps) turned up with a full laundry basket and asked if I had finished. Actually I had, although there were still a couple of hours left of my time. So said yes and nodded consent for her to use the machine (as that was clearly what she wanted, even if she did not actually ask!). In my book, that's one of those situations where one might expect a "thanks" - in any culture... But no... She just went ahead. (Sigh)DawnTreaderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04533307672147117843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-60670300807789587252015-02-18T18:00:21.012+00:002015-02-18T18:00:21.012+00:00I don't know it is a lack of gratitude as much...I don't know it is a lack of gratitude as much as it is a lack of manners. And, that instruction can only come from the parents or other adults that a young person has respect for. And, there is the rub, so to speak. If the young people do not respect anyone (even themselves) then manners mean less than nothing to them. It takes no more time out of ones day just to say, "Thank you" or to give someone a quick smile.Peace Thymehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17361079101751470855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-491601969330897292015-02-18T14:07:43.267+00:002015-02-18T14:07:43.267+00:00Sue you are absolutely right. At first I thought i...Sue you are absolutely right. At first I thought it was just a Glasgow thing (Glaswegians being a very friendly bunch on the whole) but then I noticed it when I was travelling by bus in Ayr. As Glasgow and Ayr are the only places I've been on a bus in recent years (I also used busses in Edinburgh but that was many years ago) I can't comment about anywhere else. I suspect some psychology student could get a masters degree out of that.Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-91110051192785630302015-02-18T14:04:30.174+00:002015-02-18T14:04:30.174+00:00Serenata I think there is a difference in friendli...Serenata I think there is a difference in friendliness certainly in New Zealand's smaller towns anyway people are very friendly and polite on the whole. Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-6583914135602525682015-02-18T14:00:00.815+00:002015-02-18T14:00:00.815+00:00Meike it's very possible. I did do a Postvorta...Meike it's very possible. I did do a Postvorta search of my blog to see if I had because it seemed likely but I couldn't find a post. It's the respect and politeness thing that is so important. I have a female friend of very feminist views who gets very irritated by some of these 'foibles' but my Mum would turn in her grave (that is if she hadn't been cremated) if she saw me not doing those things (and my Mum was pretty feminist too in her own way and day). I'm with you all the way on your last paragraph. Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-18806936638284326442015-02-18T13:54:33.433+00:002015-02-18T13:54:33.433+00:00Pauline we used to have a lady named Carol in our ...Pauline we used to have a lady named Carol in our local Coop supermarket. She would have a queue at here checkout whilst others were vacant. She knew all her customers by name and it was worth standing in her queue for the craic. She single-handedly showed that good manners and good social skills attract a like response from others. Leastways she was a fantastic example and I can't imagine how anyone who was not of similar demeanour would have coped.Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-62143428255029688192015-02-18T13:50:35.971+00:002015-02-18T13:50:35.971+00:00Yes I always ask for the magic word and if it'...Yes I always ask for the magic word and if it's not forthcoming. So far I've not had the response you received. Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-64733986740594755502015-02-18T13:49:12.232+00:002015-02-18T13:49:12.232+00:00That's an idea Kay. Or plant a symbol of Faceb...That's an idea Kay. Or plant a symbol of Facebook on my forehead.Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-68304426759168390452015-02-18T13:48:20.012+00:002015-02-18T13:48:20.012+00:00Ah well Red we are in the same boat.Ah well Red we are in the same boat.Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-79343471787850928022015-02-18T13:47:59.121+00:002015-02-18T13:47:59.121+00:00I wonder why Virginia.I wonder why Virginia.Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-1178750103157049652015-02-18T13:47:13.729+00:002015-02-18T13:47:13.729+00:00On pavements Frances I only step aside for people ...On pavements Frances I only step aside for people who are not walking abreast and who appear older than me or infirm or who are females above their teens. I decided that years ago when all the secondary school children used to crowd the pavement on the way into town (my office and the school are next door to each other).Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-14439829918355164292015-02-18T13:42:48.082+00:002015-02-18T13:42:48.082+00:00Actually Monica in the space of a couple of minute...Actually Monica in the space of a couple of minutes in the sports centre today two teenage girls just carried on chatting and ignored the fact that I'd held the door open for them. Then a young man of oriental extraction and impeccable manner held a door open for me and wished me good morning. He was probably born and brought up on the Island and probably went to the same secondary school as the girls. The difference was so marked it made me wonder whether the inherent cultural difference has been passed on. Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-67685923570111542332015-02-18T13:33:53.698+00:002015-02-18T13:33:53.698+00:00That sounds like a good idea then Norma an Helsie....That sounds like a good idea then Norma an Helsie. I shall try it. Graham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6784891745623390957.post-65519341328414426452015-02-18T13:30:55.848+00:002015-02-18T13:30:55.848+00:00Well I can honestly say Kate that James was the mo...Well I can honestly say Kate that James was the model of good manners in everything when he stayed with meGraham Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196744947133121475noreply@blogger.com